Men never want to let their guards down and they will probably never change. As man, We always want to keep their ego to the max and that sometimes can keep women away to detect what they mean when they say certain things. Sometimes, as men once we feel like noone will understand we block anyone from knowing what we go through. Here’s how Shine decode what men mean when they say things they don’t want to say.

1. He Says: “We should hang out sometime.”
He Means: “I’m afraid you’ll say ‘no’ if I ask you out.”
2. He Says: “I’ll call you later.”
He Means: “I may or may not call you at some point between now and three months from now.”

3. He Says: “My ex is crazy.”
He Means: “I messed her up, and she got upset.”

4. He Says: “That guy seems like a good friend of yours.”
He Means: “Was there ever a thing between you?”
5. He Says: “It’s a long story.”
He Means: “It’s a story that makes me look bad.”

6. He Says: “That’s a new look.”
He Means: “You look weird.”

7. He Says: “Why are you being so emotional?”
He Means: “Why are you acting like a psycho?”

8. He Says: “That’s not what I meant.”
He Means: “That’s totally what I meant, but now that I see you’re mad, I wish I hadn’t said it out loud.”

9. He Says: “It’s fine.”
He Means: “It’s not actually fine, but I am not in the mood to discuss it.”

10. He Says: “Can we talk about this later?”
He Means: “I never want to talk about this again.”

We all know as a man, one has to look fresh, smell good, talk smoth all the time, especially when it comes to women. Well, in a study done, by women they found this statement to be untrue.

Out of the 2500 women who were surveyed for this poll said that “they like man with gray hair, hairy chest, glasses to be  a fetish for them. Most importantly, they like men who love to cry and sob when something happens to them.  

“Spokesman for www.onepoll.com, which carried out the research, said: ‘Publically, girls will claim they want a muscly guy, who is hair free and manly enough not to show his emotional side.

• 91 per cent would actually prefer a guy who had a few flaws over someone who is perfect.
• And more than half would rather a guy who was soft and cuddly instead of toned and muscly.
• Almost two thirds would prefer to be with a naturally hairy man
• Women also prefer a guy who doesn’t spend too much time on his appearance, with 63 per cent saying they would like a man who got ready quickly rather than fussing over what he looked like.
• Fifty-eight per cent of women even want a guy who doesn’t care what he eats over someone who is watching his weight and counting calories.

Sometimes I wonder what does women like anyways.

We all know that Chris Brown had a big fight with Rihana and now they are separated according to the media. But, on his last appearance before the judge Chris looked as he is already free. Let’s rewind this for a second, when his situation was hot in the media, Chris was always suit up, but now that that he is completing his terms, there’s a vibe that he gives which says he doesn’t care, i am already free.

The picture above is Chris right now going to Court,  here is Chris before, while the delima was going on.

Not only does Chris look sad in this picture, it also portraits him as his career is over. Now that he is doing good with his terms, i guess he doesn’t care anymore how he appears before the judge or how the media frame him.

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During his 28th birthday, Rapper Juelz Santana, donned a fabulous suit which left many to think are rappers  becoming more Corporate this days than when rap was just starting. With a colorful suit and nice fit, Juelz makes rappers look smart other than what they say during rap rhymes.

Not only did he look great in the suit, but it shows that suits  can transform your image. In these pictures, as a rapper it shows that Juelz is not forced to wear the suit otherwise it will be baggy and understated, but rather take the time to make a statement and to look great on his birthday. Suit is fabulous and Juelz looks fantastic in, dang we just wish that we can see the shoes he is wearing.

Sometimes, it is hard to have to let that old fling go. Better yet, it is even hard to accept a friend request of exes on Facebook for the same reason that you don’t want to start a friendship with this person. Sometimes, how the relationship end can determine the answer to that question, but here’s a quick help with that question by April Daniels Hussar from bettyconfidential.com

Back in the dark ages (i.e., before Facebook), the only way to spy on ex-boyfriends was to “accidentally” stalk them at work or “run into” them at their favorite watering holes. Not that I ever did anything like that, of course. I never had to because where I come from, a small town in Northern California, it was perfectly normal to stay friends with your exes. Imagine my surprise culture shock when I moved “back east” and fell in love with a Jersey boy whose circle of friends still ostracizes an old pal because he dated one of the group member’s ex-girlfriends… in junior high. Toto, we’re not in California any more.

Needless to say, the subject of exes has always been a touchy one for my dear hubby and me. When we met, he wasn’t “friends” with any of his old girlfriends; I was still “friends” with just about all of my old boyfriends. In the name of domestic bliss, I lost touch with my old flames – moving to a new coast and becoming a mommy made that pretty easy to do – even though there were some friendships I was sad to lose. All the same, when I started my Facebook account I steered clear of anyone who might be considered controversial. I assumed Darling Hubby did the same. But imagine my surprise about a year ago when I discovered a few familiar names on his Facebook page. Why, hello there, Ex-Girlfriend-Right-Before-Me and Ex-Girlfriend-Right-Before-Her! Is there some kind of loophole for an ex-girlfriend on Facebook?

Then again, maybe “friending” exes on Facebook really isn’t quite as threatening as keeping in touch with them in real life? According to a recent News article,  quite the contrary is often true: Facebooking exes is just a gateway drug into illicit affairs and broken marriages. The article tells the story of “Ellen,” her husband, and her husband’s ex-girlfriend, with whom he reconnected on Facebook. Old friends catching up quickly progressed into old flames re-igniting, and the rest is a sordid tale that narrowly avoided becoming divorce court history. In fact, the article warns, “Facebook was mentioned in one in five of all divorce petitions filed through an internet service called Divorce Online.”

Well, fortunately, that doesn’t seem to always be the case. Not having been privy to this startling news a few months ago, I went ahead and clicked “accept” on a couple of friend requests I’d been avoiding in my inbox. And guess what happened? Nothing! My marriage didn’t crumble, I didn’t fall madly back in love with anyone, and the world continues to spin on its axis. At first it was kind of weird to see wedding photos and baby pictures, but after the weirdness wore off, it was nice. The couple of ex-boyfriends on my Facebook friends list are people that, in other circumstances I’d still be friends with in real life. People change, breakups happen and life goes on, but that doesn’t mean you stop caring about someone just because he’s not the leading man in your life anymore. And I understand that my husband might feel the same way about the exes on his page – yeah, even you with the new boobs.

Fortunately, it seems that the occasional update on Facebook is now considered harmless at my house, but a lunch date is out of the question. I can live with that. But how do other people feel? Naturally, I took to my Facebook page to find out.

“What are your thoughts on friending exes on Facebook? Yay or nay?” I wrote, and the reactions ranged from, “Nay, always nay!” (Cynthia, 32, married) to “Depends on the ex” (Robin, 38, married, two kids), to my personal favorite, “I much prefer friending the siblings or friends of exes incognito and then spying on the exes. So much more fun that way!” (Stephanie, 40, married, two kids, and one of my most fun friends to have cocktails with).

One friend, “Lavanda,” is 30 and currently single. Her initial response was: “Highway to the danger zone! I head this problem off at the pass by never friending any guy I’m dating on Facebook. I’m saving my relationship status update for marriage!”

But how do the boys feel? My old roommate (as in, purely platonic sharer of an apartment) “Dan,” now 30 and married with two kids, tells me, “My wife and I both have exes as friends on Facebook, but it’s mostly just to make sure we’re doing better than they are.” A Twitter friend of mine, Aaron, aka @aaronwolfe (33, married for three years, no kids) summed up how I bet a lot of guys feel about their partners friending exes: “I want to say it’s fine,” he said in a direct message to me. “But then I get filled with a bitter acidic wave of jealousy & want to howl from mountaintops.”

Sidebar: I believe it all depends on the friendship the wo of you had and also how the relationship ended. You shall not let your buddies determine this answer when it all comes to how you feel and how you want to continue the relationship between you and your partner.

We will like to know how you feel about this situation, so let’s us know.

One day or another, you wake up from the bad side of the bed and realize that you have a closet malfunction. Sometimes, in life we face with this type of obstacle and the best thing is to throw away these clothes and shop for new clothes. The problem with this solution is the fact that we always end up buying the same style that will keep us going back to the store again, but here are some simple thoughts on how to get the best fit from your clothes.

The Answer is all on how the clothes shall fit, for example Fashionbeans said,

Shirts – stretch marks around the buttons or the chest, billowing of fabrics around your sides and waist (it should be a straight line from your armpit downwards), cuffs should end at the dip in your wrist where your thumb begins.

Jeans (Waist Size) - Jeans are really hard to find the perfect fit. It is all about body type and your personal preference. Some people like a really skinny fit because it is part of their “look” whilst other’s like the comfort fit look. However your waist should always fit, meaning that the jeans should sit around your waist perfectly with just a little give (to pull them on or off easily), and you should only need a few notches tightening on your belt. You can oversize jeans in order to give you that looser effect, but it should never be up more than one waist size as you will cause an effect where you have to tie your belt so tight that it clumps the top of your jeans together and causes the material to fold and just look untidy. If in doubt as a beginner then I would recommend a straight leg or slim fit pair of jeans as they are very versatile and can be worn with multiple footwear.

Jeans (leg length) – The other key tip to finding a perfect pair of jeans is leg length. Most designer’s will do 3 leg lengths – short, regular and long – dependant on your height and you need to get this right. Your jeans hem should always sit on top of your trainers or shoes with a slight break at the bottom. The way I like to measure is without footwear on and have the jeans reach just above my heel. Then when you put your footwear on there will be a slight break of the fabric that is long enough to cover all of your socks (no Michael Jackson look here) without having clumping excess material all bunched up at the bottom – again this looks untidy and messy.

T-shirts - The big one here is if you raise your arms above your head or outwards ‘Vitruvian Man’ style there’s more than half an inch of your stomach peeping out. Or the material starts bunching and creasing in awkward places i.e. other than where your joints are.

Best fit Clothes on Man

The clothes on Beckham fit him well, he shows his muscular side and it doesn’t look mismatch. I am not saying that the clothes have to be too tight on you that you can’t move, but all you have to try to do is feel fit. If you look at Beckham, the jean and shirt  are not too baggy and they sits well on him, especially the jean. Therefore, it keeps the spot light on him rather than his clothes.

Bad fit clothes on Man

It doesn’t take yone a second look to see what he is wearing is not in proper format. Try not to wear too much clothes, or fabrics. Also it’s best to keep it simple, relax yourself and your muscles. Your clothes such as t-shirts, jeans shall not be too baggy. When it fits well it looks better even when you look skinny. But now take a look at yourself, your clothes, your styles. Which style is it? is it too baggy? if it is, i recommend you take it off, look for something that fits your body well in your closet and throw the rest of the set away. You will be happy on the long run. 

 Have anything extra you would like to add? feel free to leave a comment.

When it comes to women and sex,  as men, we always questions such as, are we big enough? did i deliver the goods? will she let me have sex with her again? what will she thinks about me drooling during ejaculation? We all have our insecurites at some time, but the more we learn and deal witht the questions and answers the more we will feel much better and able to be ourselves. I discovered this article over at shine  by Rich Santos which will  be great to help with our confusion.

1. Does size matter?

I think it matters a bit, because no one wants a super small guy do they? Then again, girls tell me that a “bigger” guy is a little intimidating and the sex can be painful. Many women have told me that girth is more important than length, but I think that a combination of good girth and length does the trick, and most guys can overcome size issues by using it well.

2. Does Length of Time of Intercourse Matter?

Like size, is seems as though length of intercourse time needs to be just right. Every guy fears being that “2-minutes-and-done” guy. During my formative years I was so scared of being that guy that I worked on not getting too aroused at every level: from kissing to sex. I kept my mind off what was happening and focused on random unrelated things to ensure that I didn’t ejaculate too early.

But it backfired. Sex went on too long, sometimes for 45 minutes. I went from feeling like an amazing stallion to feeling awkward and inadequate because no one was happy with that length of time. So, I’ve heard 15-20 minutes is a good time, but what woudl you say?

3. Is Foreplay Overrated, or Underrated?

I assume most women love foreplay. I even admit I love foreplay– little things like kissing, etc get things going the right way, in my book. In my constant quest to satisfy my partner, I make sure to include plenty of foreplay during encounters. In fact, I’ve been told that the way I speak to a woman, previous dates, and time spent together leading up to an encounter could all be considered foreplay.

However, spontaneous quick encounters like “kitchen table sex” involve very little foreplay, but it seems at least as passionate as sex with foreplay. When you lock eyes, and go at it right then and there with no time for foreplay, is it better than sex with foreplay, or just different?

4. Are You Unsatisfied If You Don’t Have An Orgasm?

Hopefully, you haven’t been with too many men that complain that they are unsatisfied if they don’t have an orgasm. I’ve never had “blue balls” (that phenomenon where a guy’s testicles ache if they’ve gotten aroused but didn’t have an orgasm). I don’t think women experience pain when they don’t have an orgasm, but do you they let down after sex if they don’t have one?

5. Is Oral Better Than “Regular”?

I used to think I could do no wrong administering oral sex to a woman. It helps that many guys seem reluctant to do it, making it like that fun friend that rarely comes out but when they are out they are always a great time. Oral sex is just as elusive. But I’m learning there are women who don’t like oral sex, or think it’s gross or whatever.

So, is it better than regular sex, or does it depend on your mood? I can tell you that guys love “BJ’s”. In fact guys talk about BJs more fondly than they talk about sex. I’m afraid to ask for BJs though, because it seems disrespectful. So I just wait to get lucky when a girl decides to do it…to tell you the truth, I don’t like them too much anyway.

Sidebar:As Men, we will always have questions, but the most important thing is to learn and find ways to answer these questions. I believe when you are in love with that special person, all these questions won’t matter much. She will be satisfied seeing next to her bright early in the morning.

So what are your answers to my questions? Do you have questions like this for guys, or are we a simple, stupid, and easy to figure out/satisfy as I think we are?

You are welcome to comment.

Blazer has become an important piece in a man’s wardrobe. You can wear it to work, at night, in the morning, with T-shirts, with scarf well you’ve got the idea. You have seen people wearing the blazer and you probably have worn it in the past without realizing it. With the blazer making his way to the fashion world, there is no reason not to grab one for the coming spring.

Here’s how to wear it?

> A scarf, wearing the blazer with a big scarf around your neck will turns head faster than a boxing match because of the type of elegnace it portraits to the public

> With  T-shirt, wearing the blazer with a t-shirt is really outgoing, but the most important thing is not to wear it too big. Make sure it fit you well and it makes a statement.

> with a hoody, You’ve probably have tried it but wearing the blazer with a hoody makes you more lay back and confident.

But more importantly,

When buying a key piece on the high street such as a blazer, one of the key give-aways that it is in fact ‘high-street’ is usually the buttons. They tend to be pretty plain and if Im honest, usually look somewhat cheap. As soon as I purchase anything with plain/cheap looking buttons i’ll visit the nearest habadashery and purchase a whole new set. I feel it just adds that little bit more character to the item and the chances of someone having those exact buttons on exactly that Blazer are very slim, therefore your item is completely unique. Also if you know of a good tailor you could maybe think about changing the lining to a different colour or pattern? Even adding a funky pocket scarf or a vintage brooch? They can all help add that little unique touch to the piece and will eliminate the embarrassment of standing next to the guy at the bar in EXACTLY the same Topman Blazer!FashionBeans

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Over the years, Lebron James’ style has been getting better and better. Even though, he is a young athlete in the NBA,  he dresses up more mature than his colleagues. Today, he is more intune with his style and how it looks off and on the court. Here is a new look of  Lebron with his wife by complex at a special event.

Gary Coleman went crazy in his interview with one of the Insider’s anchor. He was invited to talk about the incident that happened with him and his wife and Gary lashed out on the young anchor.

I have learned over the years how to talk with women in general because once you lash out on them you might find yourself to the nearest Police station. The thing with women is that you can never win and if i was in Gary’s position i would have flipped on her too. I believe whatever is going on over his house that his business and if anything he needs to take it to court and the anchor has no right to pressure him.

On the other hand, Gary lost his temper and that could have caused him jail times, he did the right thing by walking away. As a matter of Fact where was his lawyer, Poor Gary.

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